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E.Umana here, on a hot August Day here in Louisville,Ky.

I haven’t been posting lately;but now that’s about to change. I hope you will take some time to look at my previous posts and my About Me page.

In upcoming posts, I will be commenting on current trends,news and issues affecting marriage from a biblical standpoint,practical information that Christ followers can relate to and apply in their own lives and is not politically correct.

I have several articles floating around the internet,which you can see here on the Resources page.

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-E.Umana

E.Umana here, with 16 simple but often overlooked ways to improve your marriage, though this is mainly from a Christian perspective, it provides practical suggestions that the non Christian can benefit from as well.

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This is by no means a cure all or exhaustive resource. Reading and applying these tips will make a real difference in your marriage.

1.Date each other: Make time away from the kids, jobs etc for just the two of you.

2.Parental discipline: Be on the same page You don’t want to say no to your child; only to have him/her go to your spouse who gives him/her a different answer.

Don’t try to live vicariously through your child by giving in to their every demand,not setting reasonable boundaries Or automatically taking their side even when you know that they’re wrong..

That will hurt them more than help them in the future. Again both parents need to be on the same page.

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3. Show, don’t just say that you love one another.

4.Go out of your way to do something for your spouse even when you feel that they don’t deserve it or even if you know they will not appreciate it.

5. Seek God and serve him. God has to be at the center of your marriage.

6.Don’t let the sun go down on your anger; Don’t let arguments and disagreements fester into resentment, hostility or even violence by avoiding each other. Work it out as soon as possible, it might require some swallowing of pride; but make the effort.

7.Be more forgiving of your spouse’s faults, of course there are limits (e.g. infidelity or violence)
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8.Constructive criticism is necessary and good; being a nag and constantly tearing down your spouse is not.
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9.Take your marital vows seriously. Those vows are just made between you and your spouse. You stood before God and pledged your undying love to one another of which we shall all be held accountable Hebrews 13v4
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10. Encourage each other:
When your spouse comes home from work, got passed over for a promotion or raise and feels like the whole world is against them, give them the encouragement/ego boost that they need.
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11.Love one another even when you don’t feel like it even after the honeymoon phase is long gone. Forget the fairy tales, Love is not just a feeling, it’s a commitment.
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Just the other day, at my local Mcdonald’s restaurant, I saw a man slice up the pancakes and feed his obviously disabled wife.I could tell that they were married a long time, just by looking at them.
I admired his patience and commitment to her.
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12.Put your family ahead of any personal career aspirations. Not everyone is cut out to be an NBA Superstar Basket ball player or Movie Star. Don’t selfishly pursue goals that could cause a strain in your marriage and family.
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Think about how possibly your decision will affect, not just you; but your marriage and family as well, in a marriage, Contrary to conventional thinking, you are not entirely independent, you need to consult one another before making certain decisions that could affect the whole family.
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13.Find something that you both enjoy doing and do it regularly together. Try to find something that requires the both of you to get it done.
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14.Physical violence in any form MUST not be tolerated. “Oh baby, it won’t happen again” chances are, it will happen again and again and again, unless the abuser gets help or when the one spouse who fears for their very life chooses to end the marriage and leaves.
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15.Acknowledge and respect the God given gender differences This can cause alot of tension if not handled right. (Keep in mind,there are exceptions to the rule).

Don’t expect your wife to act like a man (arm wrestling, monster truck,Mixed martial arts,belching,passing gas and cussing for fun).

Don’t expect your husband to act like a woman (multi tasking, soap operas,shopping,baby showers,Haute Coture, taking two hours in the bathroom etc.
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16.No comparisons:
Do you think to yourself?, “I wish that my spouse was more like someone else’s spouse.”
Stop it, Your spouse will and can never be like someone else, this is your one and only spouse.

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-E.Umana

Thanks For Stopping By.

E.Umana here, your blog host extraordinaire.

This blog was first established in November 2008 to give people, primarily,biblically based advice on marriage and family.

This blog had thousands of people visiting and it also made a true impact on people’s lives. With over 100 blog posts,free offers,commentary,articles,twitter tweets etc.

Sometime in late 2009, it got hacked and all the valuable content was destroyed.

It seems that some people cannot tolerate different viewpoints especially biblically based ones.

I had pretty much given up on making regular posts; but I know that this blog can once again have a real impact on people’s lives, marriages and families.

If you want well reasoned and biblically based marital advice.

Christian Marriage Works/Askme7.com is the place to be.

The politically correct viewpoint can easily be found elsewhere.

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There are people who are people who are desperately searching for real practical answers as to why their marriage has fallen apart or is about to fall apart and they are probably not religious at all;but as a result of their determined search for answers, may even come to faith in Jesus Christ.

As you read the upcoming posts, invite a friend to with this blog regularly.

This is still very much a work in progress.

Sincerely-E.Umana