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E.Umana here, I don’t want to start the year off on such a dreary topic; but this is something worth addressing and if you like please use the sharing is caring social media buttons at the end of this post to share it .

I was listening to Pastor John McArthur and he was talking about a woman who said that God gave her an opportunity to divorce her husband and she didn’t take it and now she is stuck with the guy since she didn’t take that opportunity to divorce him, she, in her mind,she missed God’s best for her life.

People have become so indifferent about marriage and divorce.

There is not any perfect marriage, it takes hard work,commitment and seeking God’s purpose for your marriage and life. Matthew 19v 1-2

 

Last year there were over a million divorces in the United States alone and possibly millions more around the world as a whole.

Divorce has creeped into societies so completely there is hardly anyone who has not been touched by it directly or indirectly, whether, it be parents,children,neighbors,coworkers. that’s a lot of divorces and the million plus divorces represents a lot of broken hearts, crushed dreams, emotionally devastated spouses and children.

 

There are of course legitimate grounds for divorce, such as infidelity,true abandonment or violence;but today it is almost seen as a status symbol e.g. lavish divorce parties of “getting my freedom”

Even the japanese are getting in on this trend with solemn divorce ceremonies.

No fault divorce laws,introduced in the 1970′s, only made things worse,this is ridiculous, it gets people off the hook, maybe both contributed to the divorce to some degree;BUT someone is at fault. Some people will say “Don’t you want people to be happy?

 

Your marriage commitment should not be be based only on how “happy” this person makes you. You made vows and other than the exceptions mentioned above,

 

God expects you to keep it.

 

Your children don’t always make you happy,Things don’t always go as expected with them, some parents have to deal with children in and out of legal trouble,attitude problems,violence,drugs,sex etc and you think, “this is not what I expected when we had you”

 

So what do you do? Do they cease to be your children? Of course not? Then why get rid of your spouse because you’re going through a rough patch?

Is it because there is no biological connection and that supposedly gets rid of the “problem”? This is completely unbiblical;but a lot of people,even  in the church, don’t seem to care.

 

Some of the divorce settlements are scandalous to say the least, for example.

 

Once upon a time, there was a man who made millions of dollars working in the media, He was married,several years into the marriage, he traveled alone away from home and family from time to

 

time, got a girlfriend, (which is totally wrong no doubt) They get divorced,she gets spousal support of roughly one third of his income totally “free money” until she either remarries or he dies,she also gets the big house as well.

 

Bottom Line: She is not EVER going to remarry and will end up having nothing but “boy toys” (on his dime)

 

Of course while not as common,the same situation happens to women as well.

 

There was a woman,who I really admired, she was married, had children and in an age of false role models, I wanted to be able to hold this woman up as a model of a true christian woman.

 

Anyway, she worked with a new man,they have an affair, she gets a divorce, describes the marriage as (paraphrasing: suffocating) gets married to this other man (who also left his wife) they have a child. (This is a woman who touted christian values and was admired by a lot of people)

 

None of us are perfect;but there can be no rationalizations to the path that she has chosen. The now ex husband, acknowledged that they had problems and indicated that he wanted to work it out;but she didn’t want to at all.

 

With God, there are no evolving standards, There is no “getting with the times” There is that psycho bable phrase, “I love you;but I’m not in love with you anymore.”  In other words, you no longer make me happy. Love is not all about feelings.

 

People love the idea the idea of getting married, getting the chapel ready,the flowers the ring, the tuxedo, the dress etc a real fairy tale; but fail to think about the commitment when times get tough as they inevitably will.

 

Remember Hebrews chapter 13 verse 4 where God speaks about the sanctity of marriage and that he will judge fornicators and adulterers. That verse specifically mentions keeping the marriage bed undefiled.

 

In the old testament, God talks about sexual immorality as polluting the land.

 

At the end of the day, Marriage is a sacred God created institution and should be fought for, not ridiculed, even as divorce has become fashionable and commonplace.

There are no real winners in divorce.

 

Let me know what you think.

E.Umana here, I hope the weekend has been good for you. I don’t know how much of this debt ceiling news coverage I can take. Here is part two of my blog post on guarding your heart.
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Garbage In,Garbage Out.

What you or your spouse takes in (internet,TV,Newspaper,Radio etc) can affect you or your spouse very intensely. These mediums can serve a very good purpose,we all need to be well informed;but we also need to be very discerning as well. A friend once said that Facebook has ruined so many marriages.

It (facebook) can also be very destructive as well when some people can’t seem to separate the virtual world with the real world.

Again Facebook,like anything else can be used for good or evil,depending on how one chooses to use it.

Pornography has no place in a christian marriage, it will not spice things up,it makes the spouse (ususally the wife) feel inadequate, unable to match the women in physical attraction or sexually in the images or videos.

Romance novels (not all of them are bad of course) which glamorizes women who are bored,going through a difficult period in their marriage and dissatisfied in their marriage, falls in love with that buff,handsome and chivalrous Cable guy or Rich English Duke with the “killer” smile who looks deeply in your eyes and makes your knees go weak with excitement.

First Corinthians chapter 10 verse 23 says: All things are lawful;but not all things are profitable.

Translation: While something may permissible like hanging out with your ex from high school,even though you are married,it is not helpful to your marriage and it can rightly be argued that it doesn’t in any meaningful way, build up or strengthen your current marriage.

Till Next Time
E.Umana

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E.Umana here with something you might want to consider. Let me know what you think.

I’ve had to remind so many men in my personal life that they’re off the market (as in married) when they strain their neck to look at an attractive woman’s posterior as she walks by.

These men usually respond by saying “There is nothing wrong with looking.

Do you disrespect your wife by staring at other women when the two of you are out and about.

I was listening to a radio show on this very topic and the male guest stated that he made sure to not turn around and look at the very attractive woman as she was riding the escalator up

while he and his wife riding it going down as he didn’t want to disrespect his wife as he knew that (and she confirmed it) she was looking at him to see what his reaction to the mystery woman would be.

 

Women are far more likely to have wandering hearts. Does she never seem to be “in the mood” any more no matter how romantic,attentive and thoughtful you’ve been? Does she instead stay up until the wee hours of the morning (every night) chatting on Facebook with her high school sweetheart from 20 years ago who she “just found” on facebook?

Whether the husband or wife is caught up in this type of behavior eventually boundaries will be crossed, Don’t start what you can’t finish.

Romans chapter 12 verse two says: Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Wandering Romance and lust is very powerful, the false thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. This applies to wives and husbands alike.

Men especially are admonished to not stray.

So your wife is now older and she no longer has that stunning figure you once loved to show off to your friends. The fact is, as those years went by you grew older too; but since that young waitress smile, winked and laughed with you and tapped you on the shoulder, you want to throw that all away for a phantom chance. She (that waitress) may make you feel young; but you’re not.

There is no excuse to claim to be having a mid life crises.

Malachi chapter 2 verse 15  says Don’t deal treacherously with the wife of your youth. Proverbs chapter 5 verse 19 says: Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.

 

Love is not just a feeling you feel, its a choice as well. We all need discernment skills from time to time even though, at the end of the day, we know right from wrong.

 

Husbands and Wives should learn not to have unrealistic expectations.
After the affair is over, then what? Start another one? Divorce your spouse and marry another one? We all know the success rate of that scenario (sarcasm) Part Two Coming Soon.

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E.Umana here, I hope you had a great weekend. for those outside the U.S. This post will be mainly geared toward my U.S. blog visitors, though the sentiments may still apply in your country as well.

while most of us will be going to parades or patriotic concerts,eating hot dogs,grilling those succulent baby back ribs,spending time with family and generally having a good time (having a paid holiday doesn’t hurt either), take some time to reflect on the sacrifices made to secure our freedoms, without our military, we would not have our freedoms, freedoms enabled by God who equipped them to do so.

Our troops are in some cases spending this holiday for months, sometimes a year away from their loved ones in foreign lands around the world. So if you come across a soldier, whether in a parade on the street or at the local walmart (like I do), Thank them for their service.

I know that we have an election coming up next year and I pray for the very moral soul of the country. we have in the past spread God’s word around the world, now we may be in need of missionaries ourselves as we no longer, as a nation seek God like we once did with fervor and passion. Some have even said that we are a declining power.

I will not be voting based on how good or bad the economy may be as important as that is, I will be voting ,based on who I believe will show some real strong moral principles while in office, not politically correct ones .(2 chronicles 7 14) Our nation turns 235 years old today, Go out there,Thank God and make it a great day.

Until next time
E.Umana