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E.Umana here, I hope the weekend has been good for you. I don’t know how much of this debt ceiling news coverage I can take. Here is part two of my blog post on guarding your heart.
Let me know what you think.
 

Garbage In,Garbage Out.

What you or your spouse takes in (internet,TV,Newspaper,Radio etc) can affect you or your spouse very intensely. These mediums can serve a very good purpose,we all need to be well informed;but we also need to be very discerning as well. A friend once said that Facebook has ruined so many marriages.

It (facebook) can also be very destructive as well when some people can’t seem to separate the virtual world with the real world.

Again Facebook,like anything else can be used for good or evil,depending on how one chooses to use it.

Pornography has no place in a christian marriage, it will not spice things up,it makes the spouse (ususally the wife) feel inadequate, unable to match the women in physical attraction or sexually in the images or videos.

Romance novels (not all of them are bad of course) which glamorizes women who are bored,going through a difficult period in their marriage and dissatisfied in their marriage, falls in love with that buff,handsome and chivalrous Cable guy or Rich English Duke with the “killer” smile who looks deeply in your eyes and makes your knees go weak with excitement.

First Corinthians chapter 10 verse 23 says: All things are lawful;but not all things are profitable.

Translation: While something may permissible like hanging out with your ex from high school,even though you are married,it is not helpful to your marriage and it can rightly be argued that it doesn’t in any meaningful way, build up or strengthen your current marriage.

Till Next Time
E.Umana

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E.Umana here with something you might want to consider. Let me know what you think.

I’ve had to remind so many men in my personal life that they’re off the market (as in married) when they strain their neck to look at an attractive woman’s posterior as she walks by.

These men usually respond by saying “There is nothing wrong with looking.

Do you disrespect your wife by staring at other women when the two of you are out and about.

I was listening to a radio show on this very topic and the male guest stated that he made sure to not turn around and look at the very attractive woman as she was riding the escalator up

while he and his wife riding it going down as he didn’t want to disrespect his wife as he knew that (and she confirmed it) she was looking at him to see what his reaction to the mystery woman would be.

 

Women are far more likely to have wandering hearts. Does she never seem to be “in the mood” any more no matter how romantic,attentive and thoughtful you’ve been? Does she instead stay up until the wee hours of the morning (every night) chatting on Facebook with her high school sweetheart from 20 years ago who she “just found” on facebook?

Whether the husband or wife is caught up in this type of behavior eventually boundaries will be crossed, Don’t start what you can’t finish.

Romans chapter 12 verse two says: Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Wandering Romance and lust is very powerful, the false thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. This applies to wives and husbands alike.

Men especially are admonished to not stray.

So your wife is now older and she no longer has that stunning figure you once loved to show off to your friends. The fact is, as those years went by you grew older too; but since that young waitress smile, winked and laughed with you and tapped you on the shoulder, you want to throw that all away for a phantom chance. She (that waitress) may make you feel young; but you’re not.

There is no excuse to claim to be having a mid life crises.

Malachi chapter 2 verse 15  says Don’t deal treacherously with the wife of your youth. Proverbs chapter 5 verse 19 says: Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.

 

Love is not just a feeling you feel, its a choice as well. We all need discernment skills from time to time even though, at the end of the day, we know right from wrong.

 

Husbands and Wives should learn not to have unrealistic expectations.
After the affair is over, then what? Start another one? Divorce your spouse and marry another one? We all know the success rate of that scenario (sarcasm) Part Two Coming Soon.

Stop Fumbling In The Dark When It Comes To Your Marriage. E.Umana is a Louisville,KY based author on internet marketing and christian topics Learn More Click These Links.  http://www.affairsinthechurch.com

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E.Umana, here, hope you are having a great weekend, Don’t forget Father’s Day. If you have a father alive, reach out to him,even if you have strained relations. I first came across this story back in 2009 and it still moves me even today as Father’s Day approaches.

God bless our military as they go through being away from their families,sometimes for very long periods as they serve our country.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is a story from the Philadelphia,PA area. Its about (Now 6 year old) Paige Bennethum and her  now 32 year old Father. Her father was preparing to ship out to Iraq and would be gone for at least a year, leaving Paige behind with her mother Abby (who took the photo here) what was so moving to me was the fact that as his unit stood in formation to get instructions before leaving, little Paige (4 years old at the time) would not let go of her father.

 

I saw that and I was touched. I’m certainly not a pacifist by any means;but this does remind us that these are real people and real families who have to deal with long separations and it especially moves me that Paige felt very strongly about not letting her go as too many Father/Daughter relationships are not nearly as strong as  in too many cases the Mother/Daughter bond.

Just because they’re of different genders does not mean that  that bond should not be as strong as the Mother/Daughter Bond even if he doesn’t show as much interest in the latest Caroline Herrera or Donna Karan fashion line or if she’s not in the least bit interested in hunting or fishing.

 

If you ask any major phone company, the number of calls that they get on Mother’s Day and the number they get on Father’s Day, You will repeatedly here that the volume of calls on Mother’s day vastly outnumbers that of Father’s Day.

With the continuing decline of the traditional family, There is an epidemic of divorce,absentee fathers, weekend fathers,once every few months fathers.
While I personally do not agree with much of what this current administration is doing at all, I will say that I do agree with one thing the President did say about Father’s day and that is, “What makes you a man is not the ability to have a child — any fool can have a child,” “That doesn’t make you a father. It’s the courage to raise a child that makes you a father.”

Fathers need to be involved in their children’s lives, There is a reason, God gave each child a father and a mother.

While the relationship between their parents tragically ends far too often, That’ doesn’t mean that Fathers should walk away from the responsibility of guiding that child, the bible states in proverbs, (Proverbs 22 v 6) Train up a child in the way he (she) should go and when he(she) is grown, he(she) will not depart from it.

By The Way Paige’s Father Staff Sgt. Brett M. Bennethum, 32 returned from Iraq in July of last year,

See Paige’s Video HERE made in May 2010 (Back in 2009 when this story came out, it  moved millions of people, it was a real overnight sensation especially online as many people can relate to it.)

Till Next Time
E.Umana